3 Questions for When You're Feeling Disempowered 🔥

Today I am sharing 3 questions that I ask myself when I’m getting stuck in my head, overthinking, or feeling disempowered. Based on what’s coming up for me, I choose one of these three prompts to help me move through whatever drama my brain is creating.

Btw, brains create drama. It’s part of being human. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you if this happens, it’s just your brain human-ing. Our job isn’t to deny or shame ourselves for that reality, but to recognize it for what it is and not let it be the boss of us.

Here are a few of my tried and true self coaching prompts that help me navigate various types of brain drama. I hope they help you move through your brain drama, and challenges with overthinking, self-doubt, or feeling stuck making decisions too.

What if this weren’t a problem?

Inspired by my marketing coach, Simone Grace Seol, I use this one when I notice myself overthinking, worrying, or doubting myself and my decisions. For example, if I’m stuck “shoulding” myself about something and feeling like there’s something that I’m supposed to do but that doesn’t feel natural for me. I can easily get stuck spinning, overthinking, or feeling disempowered. So I ask myself this question to determine how I might move forward if this weren’t a problem.

Who would I be without this story?

Shoutout to Byron Katie's The Work for this one! When I’m beating myself up about something, judging myself, or holding a limiting belief about who I am I use this question for self-coaching. For example, if I’ve decided that something is wrong with me because I don’t understand a spreadsheet with ease and I start spinning with self-doubt, I might ask myself this question to decide the next best step forward.

What if X were true and it didn’t mean anything about my worth or who I am?

This question comes in handy when I’m stuck in self-judgment or feeling insecure about my self-concept. For example when I’m resisting sadness or grief, because I hate thinking of myself as a sad person I might invite myself to consider the potential that I could be sad right now and it doesn’t mean anything about who I am as a person. I can be sad or full of grief and also be a happy person.

Sometimes I sit with these questions in my journal or meditation, but sometimes I work them out in the shower or when I go for a walk. The more I use them for disrupting my own brain drama, the more they come naturally to me in moments of stress, worry, or disempowerment.

I hope they serve you well!

with love + solidarity,
Victoria

PS— this is just a taste of what happens inside of my coaching containers! We unpack questions like this together to disrupt limiting beliefs and brain drama, and I also offer similar prompts to support you between our calls.

Coaching isn’t advice giving or me telling you what you need or what to do. It’s about skill building, or capacity building as I call it. It’s about cultivating confidence from deep within, so that you can feel empowered and capable in your own decision making. 

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