I am Not Broken

I don't know about you, but some days things feel really hard. I get triggered or activated or I react to something in a way that just doesn't feel aligned with who I am- or who I aspire to be, anyway.

And sometimes when this happens, I judge myself.
I make it my business to try and figure out what needs to be healed.
What went wrong?
Why aren't I operating as my highest self all the freaking time?!

I shame myself with my own tools.
I know how to do this.
I'm better than this.
I've come too far to be this triggered or defensive.

Umm... OR... I am a freaking human being who has great moments and tough moments and who is always learning and growing and healing and making mistakes.
 

And I am fucking worthy of feeling loved (and loving myself!) whether I'm "at my best" or not.

And so are you.

In that spirit, I am sharing a note I wrote to myself in my journal this week with hopes that it feels as loving and empowering to you as it did to me. ❤️ 

I am not broken. 

I don’t need to be fixed.
Everything that hurts or that doesn’t feel healed isn’t wrong.
Everything doesn’t need to be healed, especially not today.

 
Sometimes I just need to be witnessed.

To witness myself.

To hold myself, and offer tenderness.

To find acceptance in what is.

To love myself in what is.

To receive my own love.

I am not a perfect human.
I’m not meant to be. 
And yet, I am worthy and whole and perfect in all of it.

But I think this is life.

And maybe learning to love and accept the hard parts is the healing?

And maybe for today that’s enough.

Today I aspire to accept it all and not make it mean something about me.
 

And I invite you to do the same.
You deserve it.

And if you're ready to receive support in cultivating more healing, ease, and self love, I would love to hold space for you. If you can relate to this example I want you to know that moments like this used to take me down. I would spiral and spin and get stuck. I'd exhaust myself. But now I'm able to notice what's coming up, name it, find tenderness for it, and move with it. I spent about 10 minutes in my journal and meditation, then moved on to have a gorgeous day.

That response is a result of coaching and hypnotherapy. It's changed my life and it can do the same for you. Schedule a call today to learn more about my coaching containers and see if we're a good fit. You don't have to live this way any longer! I'm ready when you are ❤️ 

with love + solidarity,
Victoria

Oh, and PS-- we also dropped a new episode of our podcast, Reconnecting with Pleasure, on this topic last week. I loved recording it and hope you love listening!