Why I Became a Coach

Last night Jen & I hopped on a Zoom to talk about Tyre Nichols.
      * If you’ve been around for a while, you know that this was a kind of throwback! Jen and I used to do these webinars together often. 😊

This time it just felt necessary, and maybe even cathartic.

We talked about policing, white supremacy as a system (read: it doesn’t matter that the cops were Black, it’s still a product of white supremacy), and how white folks can continue to show up and do the work.

Systemic racism is the fabric of our nation.

It’s ingrained into all aspects of our society, and policing is no exception.

That includes when there are Black cops, or other cops of color.

I hope you’ll watch the video and share your questions or thoughts.
 

But more than that, I wanted to tell you that this is why I became a coach.

Because we need skills and capacity to disentangle from all the ways that white supremacy culture becomes ingrained in us, almost like personality traits.

Perfectionism, people pleasing, responsibility, anxiety… it’s tangled with power and dominance.
 

I help clients every day to recognize how these patterns live inside of them and how to heal them.

We need skills and capacity for regulating, reimagining, integrating, and healing.

To make space for us to cultivate new ways of being.

To have the hard conversations.

I help clients every day learn to feel into their body, to stay with hard and uncomfortable sensations and feelings, and learn to regulate their nervous systems. This is what capacity building looks like in practice.

We cultivate an internal landscape that helps us make sense of what’s happening and how our patterns and conditioning take over.

This is also why I talk about pleasure so often.

Because I believe pleasure is our birthright. But more importantly, I believe in pleasure as a conduit for healing and community care, that is not derived from power but through our humanity.

Pleasure is an essential part of liberation.

And we can have both.

Most of my clients navigate the complexities of having both privileged and marginalized identities. We have the constant swirling between power and subjugation intertwined in our bodies.

I am a coach because disentangling ourselves from our subjugation is also how we disentangle ourselves from systems of power.

It’s where we find our humanity.

Our soul.

Our wholeness.

And then we can begin to understand and see this in others.

We do not have to continue to live like this. And I would love to support you if you'd like to learn more about my coaching, subconscious healing, workshops, or white affinity work.
 

We get to be the disrupters of our own life and our collective suffering.

If you’d like to learn more, let’s hop on a call today.

With love & rage,

Victoria