My First Experience with NLP

I want to tell you a quick story about my first experience with NLP...

At the start of COVID when the world locked down, like many folks I was struggling. My business came to a screeching halt. There was so much uncertainty! And suddenly we were navigating virtual school and lockdown in a tiny apartment. But on top of that, I was hurting. I was grieving and resisting grief in big ways.

Back story. When I was 30 years old with a newborn and 1 year old, my mother and very best friend died of cancer. It was one of the most devastating experiences of my life. It shattered me and I have never been the same.

But one of the lingering things that I hadn't expected was the way that grief would impact me. It came in waves that could swallow me right up. I was scared of my grief, unsure how to navigate it, constantly on edge that it may consume me. And overtime grief started to become a trigger for me. The mere idea that something might end and trigger grief was so terrifying that I would cling to things -- relationships, items, memories... all sorts of things.

Early in the pandemic, this is emotionally where I was. Clinging, white-knuckled to parts of my life that I knew weren't serving me, but I was terrified to let go. I was running from grief. And as you might imagine, COVID was conjuring up lots of grief!

But at the same time, Zoom opened up opportunities for access to services and experiences that I otherwise likely wouldn't have known about, mainly healing sessions! I started trying out different healing modalities and felt really open to spiritual and energy healing modalities. After dabbling with different things, a coach that I had worked with in the past offered an NLP subconscious healing session. My gut said yes, so I listened.

That session changed my life.

When we started, I talked about grief. I was struggling-- feeling so heavy and avoidant. I knew it was time to release to move forward. Then Kayley engaged my subconscious in a Time Technique to release the root causes of my grief.

I learned through that session that much of the grief that I had been carrying wasn't mine. I was holding my Mom's grief and other family members. Playing the role that I had so often played in my family, managing other people's emotions. Taking it all on to try and make it better for them.

But that day Kayley invited my subconscious to release that root experience and to move forward without needing that pattern anymore.

My goodness! I immediately felt lighter and more grounded. I could feel sadness, and even grief, without feeling consumed or swallowed. I even talked to my sister at length about the session, and she affirmed so much of what I had seen and experienced through the Time Technique.

But what's really blowing my mind is that this season tends to be the season of sadness and grief for me. My Mom got quite sick in late October and died in mid-December. I often find myself feeling down this time of year, missing her out of nowhere.

This December marks 10 years since my mother died. A decade. It's been hard to imagine how so much time has passed.

And this morning I was talking about this milestone and got sad, as you'd expect. But then I found myself bracing for what would come next. The familiar feeling of "here it comes..." but when I paused I realized it wasn't coming. I talked about the anniversary, cried for a few moments, made some plans to spend time with the people that I love, and then I felt better. In fact, if anything I grieved the fact that I feel capable of living through this season with joy.

As I sat and reflected, I remembered my NLP session and I realized just how much of my feelings were connected to the pattern of grief. But once I could release the pattern (with the help of my amazing facilitator!) I could feel the grief or sadness and then move on. Without the pattern, it was just a feeling, like anything else. And this realization is life-changing for me!

And this is why I am now facilitating NLP and Time Techniques for my clients. Because it is as close to magic as anything I've experienced!

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