Consistency

Consistency is one of those concepts that has always felt like a weapon to my ADHD brain.

It feels like some kind of suggestion that I should be a certain way.

Routinized.

Organized.

Strategic.

The idea has always left me feeling like I’m at a deficit. Broken.

Like it’s something that I simply can’t achieve.

It’s been quite daunting at different times of my life.

In graduate school when I was working on my dissertation.

As a business owner.

How could I have a completed dissertation or a successful business if I can’t be consistent?!

The truth is that I weaponized the idea against myself.

Every time I received the advice to just be consistent and you’ll get X results.

What I hear is – not me. I’m broken. I don’t know how to be consistent.

But what does consistency even mean?

I brought this wondering to a recent meditation while I was feeling heavy under the worry and self shaming belief that I’ll never be successful because I can’t be consistent.

What I heard was a game changer.

What if I am consistent?

Showing up every day, meditating, checking in on myself, listening, trusting.

That’s consistency.

What if instead of consistency being some arbitrary list of things that I have to do, it’s a way of being. A set of rituals. A practice.

I am deeply consistent at coming back home to myself.

I’m consistent in honoring my own wisdom, instincts, and desires.

Trusting myself.

Listening.

Serving.

What a game changer!

I told you recently that this year is about loving myself better than I ever have before, and that means that I’m getting closer to (and more honest about) the dark stuff. The stories I have about myself and the ways that I weaponize those stories against myself.

It’s a practice to learn how to love myself and my ADHD brain that hates arbitrary routines. To learn how to cultivate and love the practice to learn to honor my energy and focus, instead of trying to force things.

And it’s also a practice to remember that I get to redefine the terms any time. Because I absolutely love who I am and what I’m capable of doing when I’m tuned in to myself, honoring my energy and desires, and allowing instead of forcing.

What would it feel like to you to think of consistency as something that you already are? Or if you found a new definition for some concept that you’ve weaponized against yourself?

And if you’re reading this and craving space to redefine your terms and cultivate a deeper self love, Shadow Play might be the perfect support for you! 

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With love,

Victoria